見合い

みあい

formal marriage interview

JLPT N1

Character Breakdown

Meaning and Usage

The word 見合い (みあい) refers to a formal meeting or interview arranged with the purpose of marriage, often involving introductions by family or matchmakers. It is a traditional practice in Japan where two people meet to consider marriage.

Context and Nuance

見合い is typically more formal and structured than casual dating. It often involves exchanging photos (見合い写真) beforehand and meeting with the intention of evaluating compatibility for marriage. This practice is less common among younger generations but still exists, especially in more traditional families.

Common Collocations

  • 見合い写真 (みあいしゃしん): a photo used for the marriage interview, usually sent in advance.
  • 見合い結婚 (みあいけっこん): marriage resulting from a formal meeting.
  • 見合いをする: to have a formal marriage interview.

Register and Politeness

The term is formal and often used in polite or neutral contexts, especially when discussing marriage arrangements. It is not casual and usually appears in conversations about family, marriage, or traditional customs.

Learner Tips

A common confusion is mixing 見合い with casual dating. Remember, 見合い implies a formal, often family-involved meeting with marriage as the goal, unlike casual dating which is more informal and personal.

Example Sentences

かれはおやのすすめでみあいをした。

He had a formal marriage interview arranged by his parents.

みあいしゃしんをよういして、あいてにおくった。

I prepared a formal marriage interview photo and sent it to the other party.

みあいけっこんはさいきんすくなくなってきている。

Formal marriage interviews have become less common recently.