へりくだる

へりくだる

to deprecate oneself and praise the listener

JLPT N1

Meaning and Usage

The verb へりくだる means to humble oneself, often by deprecating oneself while praising or showing respect to others. It is a formal and polite expression used to convey humility in social interactions, especially in business or respectful conversations.

Common Contexts

You will often hear へりくだる in situations where someone wants to show respect or modesty, such as in apologies, self-introductions, or when acknowledging one's faults. It is a way to lower oneself socially to elevate the listener.

Collocations and Patterns

  • へりくだった態度 (a humble attitude): used to describe someone's respectful and modest behavior.
  • へりくだって話す (to speak humbly): common when addressing superiors or customers.
  • へりくだって認める (to humbly admit): often used when confessing mistakes or faults.

Register and Nuance

This verb is formal and somewhat literary, so it is more common in written language, speeches, or polite conversation rather than casual talk. Using へりくだる appropriately shows good manners and social awareness.

Common Mistakes

Learners sometimes confuse へりくだる with simple politeness verbs like 丁寧に話す (to speak politely). However, へりくだる specifically implies lowering oneself, not just being polite. Avoid using it casually or with close friends, as it may sound overly formal or insincere.

Example Sentences

かれはいつもへりくだってはなすので、まわりからすかれている。

He always speaks humbly, so he is liked by those around him.

へりくだったたいどであいてにけいいをしめすことがたいせつだ。

It is important to show respect to others with a humble attitude.

かのじょはへりくだってじぶんのしっぱいをみとめた。

She humbly admitted her mistake.