Meaning and Usage
The verb おだてる means "to flatter" or "to cajole" someone by praising them excessively, often to get something in return. It is commonly used in everyday conversation and can carry a slightly negative nuance, implying manipulation or insincerity.
Common Contexts
People often use おだてる when talking about trying to influence others, such as bosses, children, or friends, by complimenting them to gain favor or cooperation.
Collocations and Patterns
- おだてて + verb (e.g., おだててやらせる): to flatter someone into doing something
- 上司をおだてる: to flatter one's boss
- おだてられて調子に乗る: to get carried away when flattered
Register and Nuance
おだてる is informal and can sound critical if used seriously. It is not polite language, so avoid using it in formal situations unless quoting or describing behavior.
Common Mistakes
Learners sometimes confuse おだてる with simple praise (ほめる). The difference is that おだてる implies flattery with an ulterior motive, while ほめる is straightforward praise without manipulation.