縁談

えんだん

marriage proposal

JLPT N1

Character Breakdown

Meaning and Usage

The word 縁談 (えんだん) specifically refers to a marriage proposal or marriage arrangement, often involving families or intermediaries. It is a formal and somewhat traditional term used in contexts where marriage is discussed seriously, sometimes with the implication of matchmaking or arranged marriage.

Common Contexts

You will often hear 縁談 in conversations about family discussions, matchmaking, or formal proposals. It is less common in casual dating contexts and more associated with serious or traditional marriage negotiations.

Collocations and Patterns

  • 縁談がまとまる: a marriage proposal is settled or agreed upon.
  • 縁談を断る: to refuse a marriage proposal.
  • 良い縁談: a good or favorable marriage proposal.

These phrases highlight the negotiation and decision-making aspect of marriage proposals.

Register and Nuance

縁談 carries a formal and somewhat old-fashioned nuance. It is often used in literature, formal speech, or when discussing arranged marriages. Using it in casual dating contexts might sound overly formal or outdated.

Common Learner Mistake

Learners sometimes confuse 縁談 with 婚約 (こんやく), which means engagement. 縁談 refers to the proposal or arrangement stage, while 婚約 refers to the official engagement after agreement. Remember, 縁談 is about the proposal or matchmaking process, not the formal engagement.

Example Sentences

かれのかぞくはかれにいいえんだんをさがしている。

His family is looking for a good marriage proposal for him.

えんだんがまとまって、らいげつけっこんすることになった。

The marriage proposal was settled, and they decided to get married next month.

えんだんをことわるのはむずかしいこともある。

It can sometimes be difficult to refuse a marriage proposal.